Have you ever noticed how different divorced women are to married women. All my divorced women friends are amazingly strong and independent. Living their dreams and achieving their goals. As a remarried women, I’ve noticed that I have retained this independent and as a result my marriage is alive and vibrant. Both my husband and I don’t need each other we can happily survive alone, therefore our chosen time together comes only from a place of deep appreciation for one and other. Our love is free and real and most importantly our individual dreams are alive with the support from each other.
Where as in my first marriage, I became a slave to support my husbands happiness, not my own. I did all the ironing, cooking, cleaning, washing, gardening, on top of working, raising two daughters and providing, physical and emotional support. No wonder it has taken five years to get my strength back. Yet this is the life that most married women and I must say some men lead. One partner rides on the back of the other and has the ride of their life, while the other struggles with the weight and then has to be a sexual goddess/god at the end of the day. And we wonder why the divorce rate is so high. Well no more for me and my divorced friends. Equality is our best friend. We would never settle for less, as once you have lost everything you realise there is nothing more to lose, only much to gain.